If you have a bondage fetish, then you know how difficult it can be to talk about your sexual desires, especially if your partner doesn’t know about your interests. A bondage fetish doesn’t have to be a secret. There are easy ways that you can fulfill your sexual fantasies using sensual bondage for a partner who isn’t sure whether they like bondage or not. There are also many different tools and ideas that you can use to enjoy hardcore bondage, as well.

Understanding Bondage

Introducing a bondage fetish to your partner means that you need to fully understand the fetish, and what kind of scenes you want to experience, before talking to them. Bondage can be a very exciting sexual experience, as long as you have become familiar with the do’s and don’ts of bondage. The most important thing to remember is that bondage is not the same thing as abuse, and not all bondage means that you inflict pain on your partner.

It is a common misconception the S&M and bondage are the same thing. Sensual bondage, for example, generally only consists of tying your partner up. Your partner may even leave some of their clothes on while they are tied up, as well. S&M, on the other hand, includes submission and domination, often in addition to inflicting pain on the submissive partner. Make sure that you are clear about you bondage fetish and what your ideal fantasy is before asking your partner to join.

Introducing Your Fetish

Introducing a bondage fetish is easy when you start slowly. You may bring home a pair of fuzzy handcuffs, or ask your partner to take a trip to an adult shop. Mention that you would like to try out some bondage props while you are there, and ask your partner if there is anything they want to try out, too. Your partner may enjoy it if you tie them loosely during sex, or they may like it when you use a prop such as a feather duster.

You can also try introducing your fetish by renting or buying bondage porn film. Try to go with something that fits the type of bondage that you are interested in, and then talk about the movie. You may find that by introducing your bondage fetish you are also giving your partner a chance to tell you about their sexual fantasies. Together, you can begin by incorporating new props that allow you to experience bondage together.

Experiencing Bondage

Your bondage fetish is one that is shared by thousands of people. There are some basic rules that can keep you and your partner safe throughout the experience, no matter what kind of props you use. When you bring tying your partner up, you will want to use very loose knots that your partner can escape from until you are experienced at tying. Bondage can be dangerous if the knots are too tight. There are many ways that you can learn to tie your partner safely, including books and videos.

Once you are experienced with tying knots properly, you can really enjoy your bondage fetish for the first time.

Bondage can definitely add some spice to your love life, and light bondage is much simpler to introduce to your partner, since you can begin slowly and work your way into more dominating situations. Light bondage can generally mean that one partner is restrained, while the other has complete control over what’s going on.

Safety First

Light bondage does have some risks for the inexperienced. You can talk to your partner and decide on a word or phrase to use in case either of you become uncomfortable. If you or your partner uses the word, then the play stops immediately. If you are using rope for the scene, then untie it. You may want to talk to your partner about what happened, as well, so that you can avoid anything unpleasant in the future.

You should also be careful when choosing materials to use for light bondage. Pantyhose, scarves, and other lightweight, flexible materials can easily become too tight and cut off circulation. Instead of using these items, look at your hardware store for some lightweight rope that is about as wide as one of your fingers. There are nylon varieties of rope that aren’t too rough, and that are inexpensive to buy.

There are also some common sense rules to follow when beginning to experiment with light bondage. For example, you shouldn’t restrain your partner by the neck, and you shouldn’t leave your partner in restraints unless you are present in the room. Lastly, remove bonds immediately if your partner (or you) experience numbness, tingling, or pain in any area of the body. These signs can indicate a loss of circulation, which can potentially be very dangerous.

What Do I Need?

After becoming familiar with light bondage, you may find that you want to buy some light bondage gear to make the scene more exciting. Handcuffs are a classic part of bondage, and ankle cuffs can be used, too. Outfits designed for light bondage can also be exciting, and aren’t too intimidating for even the newest participant to use effectively. Masks are particularly effective in bondage, since they allow you to become an “anonymous dominator” in the bedroom.

If your partner is comfortable enough, then you may also want to try using a blindfold. Some people also prefer to use breakable bonds. For example, rather than using handcuffs or rope, you may find that both you and your partner are more comfortable using party streamers.

For More Experienced Users

There are hundreds of different toys on the market specifically made for light bondage. Some of these items have complicated clasps and closures, making it important for beginners to practice using them before bringing them into the bedroom. Items such as gags are generally unsafe, since your partner won’t be able to tell you if they need to stop.

There are many ways that you can bring light bondage into the bedroom, whether you use restraints, blindfolds, or other bondage gear.

With everything from light bondage, biting, and hair pulling, naughty sex appeals to thousands of people. There is an art to performing these acts, however, since you won’t want to be too rough, or too gentle, with your partner. There are also some simple, creative ways to make sex more interesting, ranging from role playing to using sex toys.

Open Communication

When you want to begin using one of these naughty sex techniques in the bedroom, talk to your partner. Tell them what you like, and how you like it. For example, if you like to have your hair pulled during sex, then tell your partner how rough you like it to be pulled. If they are explaining what they like, make sure you listen. You may like things rougher or gentler than your partner, making communication key to success. If you aren’t sure how rough they like for you to be, then you will want to be gentle. If they like rougher sex, they will let you know.

Experiment

Naughty sex is an exciting way to spice up any relationship, and learning about what you partner likes is half the fun. Sex toys can be introduced if you are looking for something naughty to add to your bedroom repartee, but don’t want to introduce bondage yet. Vibrators and French ticklers are both commonly accepted sex toys, but there are also a wide range of less well-known toys that can amp up the excitement.

For example, you may want to try anal beads for both men and women, or you can introduce an anal plug for prostate massage. Light bondage has its own set of sex toys, including handcuffs, light chains, and rope, along with latex clothing and whips. You can also use blindfolds if you are looking for a completely sensuous experience. Use whatever you and your partner feel comfortable with to turn your sex life into an electrifying experience.

Role Playing

When done correctly, role playing can be one of the most exciting sex games you will ever participate in. Nearly everyone has a fantasy they would love to see acted out, whether it is sex with a nurse or a famous movie star. There are plenty of props, costumes, and creative ideas to make this naughty sex fantasy a reality. Talk to your partner about your fantasies, and ask about theirs. There are dozens of role playing scenarios that you can create for an awesome sexual experience.

Personalize the Experience

Naughty sex is meant to be a fun way to spice up your sex life, but you will always want to think about your partner’s sexual needs as well as your own. You can take turns with role playing fantasies, or you can simply indulge them by using their favorite sex toy, even if you don’t particularly like the toy. By giving your partner something they desire in the bedroom, you will find they are far more open to your ideas for naughty sex.

Light bondage can be a thrilling experience, but there are a few basics that are important to remember when you are just beginning. Safe play is even more arousing for both partners, especially when you may not be entirely comfortable with light bondage.

Tools You Need

The first time that you try bondage games, you may want to use items that you have readily available. Thick rope is much safer than thin rope, and nylon is one of the simplest materials to untie quickly. You will want to avoid using thin twine and cording, since it can easily become too tight. As a beginner, you will want to make the knots very loose until you learn how tight they should be. Ideally, you should be able to slip a finger between your partner’s skin and the rope that you are using.

Chain is also a popular tool that can be used, but you will need some rope to use, as well. You can run the chain from the bedposts or from hooks, and then using links connect it to rope. Chain is a good tool to have if you don’t have a lot of space for tying, since the round loops can be used to connect your nylon rope to.

Safety

Safety is always the most important thing when you are participating in a bondage scene. One of the most important rules to remember is never to leave your partner alone when they are restrained. You may be surprised at how quickly accidents can happen, and it is easy for circulation to be cut off when a person is restrained for too long. You and your partner should be respectful during bondage, and provide a trusting atmosphere for the scene to take place in.

You may also want to be careful not to tie so loosely that your partner gets rope burns, however. If you are new to bondage, the best positions are those that tie one part to another, such as wrists to wrists or ankles to ankles. This ensures the rope isn’t too tight, while still providing the bondage experience. If you want to tie your partner spread eagle, then make sure that have enough rope to move freely.

Restraints to Buy

You may also find that readymade restraints are a great investment when you are ready to try bondage. The restraints are typically made from leather, and use a buckle system that is easy to adjust, making these restraints a little safer than rope or chain. You will still need something to use to tie the restraints to, however, so don’t throw your rope out.

Leather is also made for bondage belts, vests, and pants. You will find that there are actually dozens of pre-made bondage toys that you can add to your collection as you become more experienced and ready to experiment more. Bondage, when practiced safely, is an excellent way to spice up your sex life. Your partner and yourself can take turns being the bonded, and develop a greater level of intimacy and trust in the relationship, all while enjoying awesome sex.

Bondage sex games can be fun and exciting when both you and your partner plan ahead and know what to expect from the games. These ideas will help you bring bondage into the bedroom for a totally new sexual experience. There are some common misconceptions about bondage, as well, but this guide can answer some common questions and dispel common myths about bondage.

What is Bondage?

Bondage can be anything that involved restricting movement of one partner at any point during sex. Some couples use handcuffs, while other prefer silk scarves or even pantyhose. Bondage isn’t meant to be intimidating, but to arouse both partners during sex. The partner who is bound typically enjoys the experience, as does the partner who is in control during the episode. Bondage has been growing in popularity since the early 1940’s, when it was introduced into the American culture.

One thing to remember is that bondage is a mutual pleasure, and that you shouldn’t consider bondage if your partner is against the idea. Some people are fine with light bondage, such as being tied with silk scarves, but don’t like the idea of using handcuffs in the bedroom. What you and your partner like will become evident as you experiment with bondage.

Creating an Illusion of Bondage

If you aren’t sure whether or not bondage is right for you, it may help if you understand that pain is typically not part of an experience with light bondage. In fact, most couples that use light bondage use the game in a way that allows both partners some control over the situation, so that both partners are comfortable and safe throughout the sexual encounter. If you want to know whether or not bondage is right for you, begin by allowing your partner to very gently tie you to the bedposts using cotton or other soft materials. Make sure you can move enough to untie yourself if you become uncomfortable.

Most couples find that the sense of danger they feel when they engage in bondage is arousing, and find themselves including more bondage toys into their sex life as time goes on. Other couples simply enjoy bondage as part of their sex lives every once in a while, simply to spice things up in the bedroom. There are also some other basic sex toys that are used in bondage that can shake up you sex life.

Other Sex Toys for Bondage

In addition to tying up your partner, or being tied up, there are a few other props that can make the bondage experience interesting. Leather clothing, typically very tight fitting, or vinyl outfits can really set the mood when you are interested in trying bondage. Both men and women can purchase leather or vinyl clothing to wear during sex. Other toys are also fun, including feathers, vibrators and, in some couple’s opinions, light spankings with a sex toy. Make sure you clear your actions with your partner before you begin using a sex toy, however, since their opinions and feelings on different toys may not be what you expect!

With mutual consideration for the people involved, bondage can really spice up anyone’s sex life. If you and your partner are interested in light bondage, there are some simple props that you probably have lying around to experiment with!