A stay at home date can be just as entertaining as going out, and you don’t even have to put on your best outfit to have a great time. You and your partner can enjoy anything that you like, from long, hot bubble baths together, to listening to tunes on the radio. These seven stay at home date ideas will help you get inspired to spend more time in.

1. Grab an adult’s only board game, and start playing. Whether you prefer naked Twister with your partner, or a game of strip poker, there is something for everyone. You can also check out the huge selection of arousing commercial board games. With games based on everything from sex secrets to sexual positions, you may find you never want to leave home for a date again.
2. Become your partner’s servant. This is an especially appealing game if you like role playing, and your partner is willing to try something new. You can even invest in a maid’s or butler’s uniform if you really want to make an impression. Make sure you have all the wine and erotic foods you can think of, such as oysters, strawberries, and chocolates.
   
3. Plan a spa night for you and your partner to enjoy. If you think that the spa is only for the girls, you will quickly change your mind by adding full body massage, complete with massage oils, to the night’s to-do list. Try lighting some candles for a relaxing atmosphere, and chill some wine beforehand to relax your partner. Treat them to a mini pedicure and manicure, and then soak in some warm water together to set the mood for an intimate night in.
4. Make S’mores over a roaring fire, either in the fireplace or the outdoors. Making a sweet treat together is just the beginning of the evening. Take this time to talk to your partner, kiss, and cuddle with just the light of the fireplace. Reconnecting after a busy work week is an easy way to keep the flame burning in your relationship.
5. Create your own photo shoot. Taking erotic photos is a great way to build the intimacy in your relationship. Invest in some lingerie and silky, sexy boxers for the photos, or spend some time in the buff taking some tasteful shots. Work on positioning your body for erotic photos that aren’t too revealing if you are camera shy.
6. Start texting your partner from another room. You can send emails or texts to your partner, telling them all of the things that you want to do to them right now. Don’t forget to send an erotic photo with the text or email!
7. Stay in bed. If you want to reconnect and rekindle the intimacy in your relationship, there is nothing better than spending your evening in bed. Remember to bring along some supplies, making sure that you and your partner have everything you may need on hand for the entire evening.

Giving you partner a sexy strip tease is a fun way to bring the spice back into a relationship. Giving a strip tease requires that you forget about your inhibitions for a little while to perform for your partner, so remember to put on something sexy and let your confidence take over. If you think you are sexy, your strip tease will be an exciting way to start an evening of sexy fun in the bedroom. Here are ten great ideas to help you plan and perform for your other half.

1. Pick something sexy to wear, making sure that there is enough clothing to take off. Sexy lingerie, high heels, or even your regular clothes with sexy panties or boxers underneath are all good for a strip tease. Wear whatever makes you feel super sexy, and your confidence will give you the boost you need to perform.
2. Don’t rush through the performance. The point of a strip tease is to build the excitement, so try to make the dance last for at least a few songs. Take your clothes off slowly, one item at a time to really excite your partner. Wear at least three of four different items, such as garters and stockings, underwear, and high heels.
   
3. Practice your performance in the mirror a few times to build your confidence before your partner comes home. You can use a chair to simulate your partner, to provide a focal point for your performance if you wish.
4. Look your partner in the eye as you perform if you really want to excite them. This will also give you an idea of what parts of the strip tease they really like, allowing you to really personalize your next strip tease to their personal preferences.
5. Do something unexpected, like giving your partner a lap dance. Don’t allow them to touch you during the strip tease, however, if you want to build the excitement for the bedroom. If you are interested in light bondage, now is a great time to pull out some fuzzy handcuffs to restrain your partner during the lap dance.
6. Use some props during the strip tease. Scarves, feathers, even a small whip can be used. Be imaginative, and anything you have can be used to make your performance more erotic.
7. Take an erotic dance class to improve your confidence and skills. You can find lots of erotic dance classes in large cities, or you can order an online video course if there is nothing locally available. Belly dancing classes are also popular, and can be a good way to learn erotic dance moves.

An erotic strip tease should be just that; a tease to set the mood for an erotic evening with your partner. If you have a sexy attitude, you will find that you exude sexiness that your significant other finds irresistible, making confidence the most important aspect of the evening. Practice alone or in a class to get the performance down pat, and you will perform a strip tease that your partner won’t forget.

Bondage can definitely add some spice to your love life, and light bondage is much simpler to introduce to your partner, since you can begin slowly and work your way into more dominating situations. Light bondage can generally mean that one partner is restrained, while the other has complete control over what’s going on.

Safety First

Light bondage does have some risks for the inexperienced. You can talk to your partner and decide on a word or phrase to use in case either of you become uncomfortable. If you or your partner uses the word, then the play stops immediately. If you are using rope for the scene, then untie it. You may want to talk to your partner about what happened, as well, so that you can avoid anything unpleasant in the future.

You should also be careful when choosing materials to use for light bondage. Pantyhose, scarves, and other lightweight, flexible materials can easily become too tight and cut off circulation. Instead of using these items, look at your hardware store for some lightweight rope that is about as wide as one of your fingers. There are nylon varieties of rope that aren’t too rough, and that are inexpensive to buy.

There are also some common sense rules to follow when beginning to experiment with light bondage. For example, you shouldn’t restrain your partner by the neck, and you shouldn’t leave your partner in restraints unless you are present in the room. Lastly, remove bonds immediately if your partner (or you) experience numbness, tingling, or pain in any area of the body. These signs can indicate a loss of circulation, which can potentially be very dangerous.

What Do I Need?

After becoming familiar with light bondage, you may find that you want to buy some light bondage gear to make the scene more exciting. Handcuffs are a classic part of bondage, and ankle cuffs can be used, too. Outfits designed for light bondage can also be exciting, and aren’t too intimidating for even the newest participant to use effectively. Masks are particularly effective in bondage, since they allow you to become an “anonymous dominator” in the bedroom.

If your partner is comfortable enough, then you may also want to try using a blindfold. Some people also prefer to use breakable bonds. For example, rather than using handcuffs or rope, you may find that both you and your partner are more comfortable using party streamers.

For More Experienced Users

There are hundreds of different toys on the market specifically made for light bondage. Some of these items have complicated clasps and closures, making it important for beginners to practice using them before bringing them into the bedroom. Items such as gags are generally unsafe, since your partner won’t be able to tell you if they need to stop.

There are many ways that you can bring light bondage into the bedroom, whether you use restraints, blindfolds, or other bondage gear.

With everything from light bondage, biting, and hair pulling, naughty sex appeals to thousands of people. There is an art to performing these acts, however, since you won’t want to be too rough, or too gentle, with your partner. There are also some simple, creative ways to make sex more interesting, ranging from role playing to using sex toys.

Open Communication

When you want to begin using one of these naughty sex techniques in the bedroom, talk to your partner. Tell them what you like, and how you like it. For example, if you like to have your hair pulled during sex, then tell your partner how rough you like it to be pulled. If they are explaining what they like, make sure you listen. You may like things rougher or gentler than your partner, making communication key to success. If you aren’t sure how rough they like for you to be, then you will want to be gentle. If they like rougher sex, they will let you know.

Experiment

Naughty sex is an exciting way to spice up any relationship, and learning about what you partner likes is half the fun. Sex toys can be introduced if you are looking for something naughty to add to your bedroom repartee, but don’t want to introduce bondage yet. Vibrators and French ticklers are both commonly accepted sex toys, but there are also a wide range of less well-known toys that can amp up the excitement.

For example, you may want to try anal beads for both men and women, or you can introduce an anal plug for prostate massage. Light bondage has its own set of sex toys, including handcuffs, light chains, and rope, along with latex clothing and whips. You can also use blindfolds if you are looking for a completely sensuous experience. Use whatever you and your partner feel comfortable with to turn your sex life into an electrifying experience.

Role Playing

When done correctly, role playing can be one of the most exciting sex games you will ever participate in. Nearly everyone has a fantasy they would love to see acted out, whether it is sex with a nurse or a famous movie star. There are plenty of props, costumes, and creative ideas to make this naughty sex fantasy a reality. Talk to your partner about your fantasies, and ask about theirs. There are dozens of role playing scenarios that you can create for an awesome sexual experience.

Personalize the Experience

Naughty sex is meant to be a fun way to spice up your sex life, but you will always want to think about your partner’s sexual needs as well as your own. You can take turns with role playing fantasies, or you can simply indulge them by using their favorite sex toy, even if you don’t particularly like the toy. By giving your partner something they desire in the bedroom, you will find they are far more open to your ideas for naughty sex.

There are hundreds of different fetishes that make sex interesting and unique, and thousands of people who have a fetish. If you have a particular fetish that you want to introduce to your partner, you may feel shy or hesitant about bringing it up, but you may be may be surprised to know that in a trusting relationship your partner may be open to making your fantasies a reality.

What is Your Fetish?

Having a fetish is common, but most people have a fetish that is related to the human body. For example, you can have a foot fetish, or a hair fetish. Most fetishes are mild, and are easily controlled through normal sexual relationships. Other fetishes are less common, and can be difficult to talk about. You may feel embarrassed to mention your fetish, or you may fear rejection or ridicule. There are some fetishes, however, that may seem outrageous but are actually very, very common.

While hands, feet, and hair are among the most common fetishes, you will also find voyeurism, lipstick, and body piercings in the most common list. Your fetish may be lacy underwear, ponytails, high heels, or running water. As long as your fetish doesn’t harm anyone else, you may find that the topic is easy to talk about in an open, committed relationship.

Discussing Your Fetish

It is a good idea to discuss your fetish on neutral ground, rather than you are having an intimate encounter with your partner. You may find that this gives them some time to think about what your fantasy is, and gives them some time to decide whether they would like to participate or not. Some harmless fetishes, such as wearing latex, are a fun way to spice up your sex life.

It is a good idea not to let your fetish take over your sex life. Some professionals recommend seeking therapy or treatment if you find that your fetish interferes with your sex life or relationship. Even though your partner may be willing to indulge your fantasies doesn’t mean that you should ignore their needs. Your normal (what you usually do) sex life should continue even though you have been able to successfully introduce your partner to your fetish.

Success in the Bedroom

For success in introducing your fetish, make sure that you are considerate. Start slowly by introducing the least threatening aspects of your fetish first. For example, if you have a foot fetish, then you may want to introduce your partner to the fetish with a foot massage rather than licking their feet. This will give them some time to get used to the idea of your fetish.

Other types of fetishes may be hard to introduce, such as a bondage fetish, but as long as you move slowly you should be able to introduce your fantasies. Time your introduction perfectly, and you may find that your partner is more than willing to try new things to spice up your love life.

Voyeurism is defined as becoming aroused when seeing others in the act of sex, or in the act of disrobing. Voyeurism can be a safe sexual fantasy that couples can easily indulge in with a few basic rules in place. Extreme voyeurism is illegal, and should be avoided, but most people enjoy mild voyeurism with a trusted partner every now and then. Here are some ideas that you can use to indulge your fantasies for a totally new sexual experience.

Porn and Voyeurism

Porn, both movies and magazines, are one of the most socially acceptable, and safest, ways to enjoy a little voyeurism. You and your partner can have some fun visiting an adult shop to find movies that both of you are interested in. There are choices that range from soft porn, which does not show penetration, to videos that show all aspects of adult sexual encounters. Make sure you choose something that you are both comfortable with, and if you aren’t sure, then choose soft porn to begin with.

Ask for a Show

If you are excited about watching your partner get undressed or aroused, then ask them for a show. You can stand in the hallway, pretending to “peek” as they get undressed and shower or you can watch as they change clothes for bed. Make sure that you have discussed this with your partner, however, or they may be upset that you are watching them without their permission!

You may even want to masturbate while you watch your partner. As long as you get the OK from your partner, this is a simple way to indulge in voyeurism. Your partner will like knowing that you are turned on by them, and you will be able to fulfill one of your fantasies.

Being Watched

Some people fantasize about being watched, and are willing to ask their partner for help in filling this fantasy. If you live in a house with a fenced in yard, or you are sure that your neighbors can’t see you, then you may even be able to have your partner watch you from outside the window. Be careful when watching from outside, however, since it is illegal if anyone else can see you.

You may also want to have another person, or two, watch you and your partner. This is a tricky subject for some couples, but many find it is a great way to enjoy voyeurism. Decide beforehand whether or not the other couple is invited to join in. Setting some basic ground rules when inviting others into your bedroom is the best way to avoid hurting your partners feelings, and respecting their wishes in regard to what acts can be performed around others.

Communication is the key when you want to include mild voyeurism into your sex life. There are many safe ways that you can fulfill your fantasies, so that you and your partner both enjoy the fun. Couples can also include others in on their sexual experiences for a new and exciting way to enjoy voyeurism, as well.

If you feel stuck in the bedroom, and are using the same position over and over, then you may want some inspiration to try something new. Even by changing position slightly you can experience deeper penetration, which is pleasing for both partners. This simple guide to sexual positions is a good way to spice up your sex life quickly.

A Twist on the Missionary Position

The missionary position is one of the most commonly used in the US, but it just isn’t a sexual position that provides a lot of excitement or gratification for most couples. Next time you have an intimate encounter, you may want to try the reverse spoon. This position offers deeper penetration for couples, and gives both partners easy access for clitoral and nipple stimulation.

To perform the reverse spoon, you need to have one partner’s back against the other’s stomach. You will find that this position is very rewarding with just a little practice.

Rear Entry Positions

Rear entry positions are great if you or your partner prefers deeper penetration or g-spot stimulation. You should have your partner on their knees in front of you to perform this sexual position, and you may find that using lubricant can help. This position provides both partners with a completely different sensation, and provides for much deeper penetration than the missionary position. You may also find that, for women, the g-spot is stimulated thanks to the natural shape of the penis when using the rear entry position.

Woman on Top

For heterosexual couples who are stuck in a rut using the missionary position, having the woman on top during sex is an easy way to spice things up. If you have a particularly shy partner, she may not like having her body fully exposed. In this case, you may want to have her begin by lying down on top, and see if she becomes less shy as she becomes more trusting. This is a great position for clitoral stimulation, and can allow for deeper penetration, as well.

Standing

If you are looking for a sexual position that allows for deep penetration and g-spot stimulation, then you may want to try having your partner sit on something that is about the same height as your waist, while you remain standing. You will find that this is one of the best positions for deep penetration, so you may want to be careful to avoid ejaculating too early.

Ask Your Partner

Some of the most exciting sexual positions are those that are spontaneous, so next time you have a sexual encounter, ask your partner what they want to try. You will find that the positions that are most pleasing to women are generally those that allow for clitoral or g-spot stimulation as well as deep penetration. There are dozens of sexual positions to try, and you can even find books filled with many different positions at your local bookstore.

Light bondage can be a thrilling experience, but there are a few basics that are important to remember when you are just beginning. Safe play is even more arousing for both partners, especially when you may not be entirely comfortable with light bondage.

Tools You Need

The first time that you try bondage games, you may want to use items that you have readily available. Thick rope is much safer than thin rope, and nylon is one of the simplest materials to untie quickly. You will want to avoid using thin twine and cording, since it can easily become too tight. As a beginner, you will want to make the knots very loose until you learn how tight they should be. Ideally, you should be able to slip a finger between your partner’s skin and the rope that you are using.

Chain is also a popular tool that can be used, but you will need some rope to use, as well. You can run the chain from the bedposts or from hooks, and then using links connect it to rope. Chain is a good tool to have if you don’t have a lot of space for tying, since the round loops can be used to connect your nylon rope to.

Safety

Safety is always the most important thing when you are participating in a bondage scene. One of the most important rules to remember is never to leave your partner alone when they are restrained. You may be surprised at how quickly accidents can happen, and it is easy for circulation to be cut off when a person is restrained for too long. You and your partner should be respectful during bondage, and provide a trusting atmosphere for the scene to take place in.

You may also want to be careful not to tie so loosely that your partner gets rope burns, however. If you are new to bondage, the best positions are those that tie one part to another, such as wrists to wrists or ankles to ankles. This ensures the rope isn’t too tight, while still providing the bondage experience. If you want to tie your partner spread eagle, then make sure that have enough rope to move freely.

Restraints to Buy

You may also find that readymade restraints are a great investment when you are ready to try bondage. The restraints are typically made from leather, and use a buckle system that is easy to adjust, making these restraints a little safer than rope or chain. You will still need something to use to tie the restraints to, however, so don’t throw your rope out.

Leather is also made for bondage belts, vests, and pants. You will find that there are actually dozens of pre-made bondage toys that you can add to your collection as you become more experienced and ready to experiment more. Bondage, when practiced safely, is an excellent way to spice up your sex life. Your partner and yourself can take turns being the bonded, and develop a greater level of intimacy and trust in the relationship, all while enjoying awesome sex.

Getting undressed is, for some, the most difficult part of sex. Both men and women feel the stress of being naked around their partner, but there are some things that you can do to lessen the tension in the bedroom. These tips can help you feel your best when you are undressed, even when you are self conscious about your body.

Think About the Positive

You may think that your chest is too flat or flabby, or that your legs are too short, but there are also things that you like. Look at your body in a positive way, and treat it like it is everything that you want. Pamper yourself by going to the spa for a mud wrap, or go in for a fifteen minute facial once a month. Not only will you feel better about yourself, you will eventually begin to see your body in a more positive light.

You can also bring the special treatment home, too. Exfoliate your skin, buy moisturizers that leave you silky smooth, or even invest in lingerie that highlights those parts of your body that you love to feel sexier when you are naked. If you really feel out of shape, then join a gym or start an exercise routine. Not only will you feel sexier, you will also enjoy extra energy every day. You don’t have to do anything complicated, something as simple as walking for fifteen to thirty minutes a day is enough to help you feel better about your body.

Through Your Partner’s Eyes

Sex and intimacy is more than having a perfect body, and chances are good that those parts of your body that you hate look great to your partner. In fact, he or she probably has their own problems about their body to worry about, so don’t be concerned that they are analyzing every aspect of your body when you are naked! Compliment your partner on the parts of their body that you like, and you may find that they do the same. You may be surprised to find that some things you don’t like are their favorites!

One of the best things that you can do to look and feel good naked is to enjoy yourself, let down your reservations, and just have fun. Don’t worry about what your partner is thinking, and simply focus on the moment. You may find that you are having too much fun to wonder about what you look like.

Sexy Lingerie and Grooming

Another simple way to look and feel good naked is to make sure that you pay attention to grooming. You may find that something as simple as a bikini wax (or a shave) is enough to help you look and feel sexy in the bedroom. For a fun way to groom, invest in a battery operated shaving kit to groom your and your partners, hair south of the border. You will have a great time getting ready for romance later!

Both men and women can also invest in silky underwear, lingerie, and robes to wear. Even though you won’t wear these clothes for long, they can jumpstart your hormones and help you boost your self confidence to feel sexier naked.

Seduction is one of those sex terms that you have heard about, but that seem to only be for people who are looking for a one night stand. Seduction is, in fact, a tool that you can use in long term relationships, to meet someone new, or to gather up the courage to ask that girl or guy that you have watched longingly out on a first date.

Boost Your Confidence

Confidence and cockiness are two different things entirely. A confident man or woman is sincere and realistic, while someone who is cocky often appears rude and annoying. If you are interested in someone, having a high self confidence is just what you need to make the first move toward seducing your love interest. To boost your self confidence, you can use positive thinking techniques that allow you to focus on your successes and victories, rather than shortcomings or failures.

Boost Their Self Confidence

Once you have made the first move, you should be willing to become interested in the person. Focus on what they are saying, and use a mirror technique to show them that you are really listening. Ask questions about what they are saying, and try to “mirror” their conversation by keeping an interest in the subject. This will allow the conversation to take on a life of its own, so that you have a good line of communication established.

Express Your Interest

Being romantically interested in someone, and showing it, is a leap of faith. When you have established a good line of communication with someone, ask them out for a date at a romantic spot. You will see that by cutting the conversation a little short, your love interest will be willing to pick the conversation up later. Remember that it is your job to pick the location, and to pay for the date, when you really want to seduce someone!

During the date, use your body language to express your interest, as well.  Sit up straight, look at the other person, and turn your body toward them. Don’t be afraid to touch their hand or hair through the date, but be careful not to move too fast or you may end up pushing them away before your seduction techniques work.

Seduction for Couples

If you are in a long term relationship, you may not think that seduction requires any real effort but you can also use these techniques to add some romance into a stale relationship. It is easy for partners to become accustomed to each other, and to take for granted the emotional and physical bonds that are shard. Seducing your partner is an exciting way to rekindle that flame, and restore the passion. Plus, you don’t have to worry about moving too quickly! You can go from initiating conversation to an intimate encounter in just a few hours time when you seduce your partner.

Small gestures are generally going to be the best way to seduce your partner. Send them flowers with a sexy note attached, wear lingerie to dinner at home, or simple make the first move during a romantic movie. Seduction is simple with the right techniques and timing, whether you are attached or single.